half of narcissists are women

 half of narcissists are women

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Why Narcissists MUST Abuse YOU (Skopje Seminar Opening, May 2025) - Vaknin

Tiggered

 

Triggered? Do nothing. Feel the emotion, don't fight it. Catch it and release it. 

Narcissism Is Contagious

 

Victim of narcissist develops transient narcissism, a false self to deal with the narcissist. 

High functioning sociopath

 

High functioning sociopath has personality disorder but is less impulsive so can blend into society and maintain jobs and relationships. Can achieve success. Calculating. Less reactive to anger. 

You checked out

 

You are indifferent to the narc. You aren't fighting, aren't getting angry. You don't get emotional. Narc will move to another supply. 

Vengeful

 

Only feel safe when dominant. 

They get mean as they lose control

 

Arguing gives them a sense of control. 

covert narcissist

 A covert narcissist (or vulnerable narcissist) hides grandiose, self-centered traits behind a quiet, introverted, or even shy exterior, making them hard to spot, but they still possess deep-seated entitlement and low empathy, often expressing it through passive aggression, victimhood, subtle manipulation, hypersensitivity to criticism, and a need for control, creating confusing, draining relationships where their actions contradict their words. Unlike overt narcissists, they don't demand attention loudly; instead, they might appear humble while secretly feeling superior, needing validation, and becoming resentful when they don't receive it. 

The Mind of a Narcissist No Contact, Grey Rock & Survival -Sam Vaknin

There's nobody home. It's like trying to pin down jelly. They have no memory. They can hold different views because don't remember any of them. They are a product of everyone around them. You have all the power but they convince you that they have it. 

Don't show them emotion. They will use that against you. Cold empathy, which means they see your emotion but use it against you. Don't offer help, advice, or guidance. Why? 1) Narc will interpret this as weakness and will use it against you. Will fake injury to do so. 2) Will take it as insult. He doesn't need advice. He knows everything. He's above emotions. 

First you are special and then you are the opposite. 

Narc talks to the snapshot, is emotionally invested in the snapshot, as you move from it because you are dynamic, he loses interest or sees you as a threat as you challenge the snapshot. They are religious where the god is the same as the worshipper. Narc is the leader of a cult and you are the cult member. 

If child is told he can do no wrong then he doesn't develop a boundary between himself and environment. Invents a false self that can he do no wrong.  Or develops a false self to protect from pain. It's a private religion. Sacrifices his true self to a false god. 

External locus of control. Believes life is determined from outside and so blames everything on outside. I'm not responsible. You can become that locus of control but narc will blame you for everything. She will develop a conspiracy theory about you. You become her god. 

Therapists try to treat narc as adults, reason with them, ask for promises. No narcissist alive whose mental age is older than 11. Can't treat them as adults. 

Gullible, believes everyone and everything. No one more stupid than the one who thinks he's God. Convince him that it's his idea and he'll do it. Ask for his advice. Manipulate using his grandiosity and magical thinking. Tell him you deserve this. 

Paranoia is a sign of narcissism. I'm important enough for someone to want to harm me. I'm the center of attention. 

Hypervigilant. If you say good evening, they think you don't think I know it's evening?

Comments

Omg! Yes, I certainly believe that a narcissist lacks access to 80% of his memories. It was like we had NO shared past at all. It was crazy making. Plans I’d thought we’d made, things I’d thought we’d agreed on, good times we enjoyed together…… just not there, very shortly after the fact.

It took me years to realize why every conversation became an argument. She was never trying to communicate. I was trying to have an interaction with something that doesn't exist. She was trying to get supply. It's so dehumanizing.

no not all parents love children

 

The rebuilt man

 

They are not like you, and they never change